In The Mistaken Identity Opener, I briefly touched on some of the fundamentals of confident body language.
Well first, you need to deliver it confidently. Hold eye contact and get your body language down pat. Stand proudly and keep your chin up.
Time to break this down to the organic compound.
Natalie Vodianova from Russia with Love
Body language or the way one carries themselves, plays a far larger role in interpersonal communication then we might first realize. We don’t consciously take note of this, but body language is responsible for a huge proportion of interpersonal communication. There have been dozens upon dozens of studies which I won’t bore you extolling that it’s not about what you say, but how you say it. Our body language unconsciously communicates who we are and what we’re feeling to other people whether we’re happy or sad or feeling on top of the world. One of the many states that is (almost exclusively) communicated via body language is confidence. Confidence is the most critical part of game. In fact, what separates the “natural” playboys from those who learn Game is that the Naturals developed high levels of confidence organically. Confidence is categorically speaking the most attractive attribute a man can have excluding extreme male model type good looks and Arnold Schwarzenegger muscles.
Roissy Maxim #11. Be irrationally self-confident
No matter what your station in life, stride through the world without apology or excuse. It does not matter if objectively you are not the best man a woman can get; what matters is that you think and act like you are. Women have a dog’s instinct for uncovering weakness in men; don’t make it easy for them. Self-confidence warranted or not, triggers submissive emotional responses in women. Irrational self-confidence will get you more pussy than rational defeatism.
Confidence can be built through multiple routes. The most common being good looks, money, athletic achievement and living a “cool” lifestyle. The most sure fire way to attain supreme confidence however, is success with women. Heartiste sums this up perfectly:
Ultimately, it’s success with women that will bring you to the pinnacle of overconfidence, flush with pussy-parting attitude. The confidence born of repeated beddings of cute chicks is the kind that goes to the bone, and suffuses every sinew. That’s why you’ll notice that the men with the most naturally unshakeable confidence around women are the ones who have been getting their way with women since they can remember, and their jobs or social circles or finances have little to no bearing on the concreteness of their confidence. Their overconfidence becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, building upon itself with each successive seduction.
Since confidence is the most ingredient in game, it is essential that all of you not only feel confident, but also communicate this to those around you.
Confident body language can be summed up rather quickly: stand tall and straight, chest out (but not so far out it looks ridiculous), keep your chin and head up always. They keyword here is pride. A proud sense of bearing. Walk proudly, stand proudly like a boss. The second component is perfecting your body language is masculinity. Don’t cross your legs when you sit. Keep your feet and thighs apart. You’re feet must apart and pointing outwards. If you were sitting on a chair and somebody was cross-legged on the floor in front of you they should be getting a full frontal view of your crotch area.
The miraculous thing about carrying yourself like this is that it automatically makes you feel more confident. It is fake it till you make it at the most basic level, the “Act as If Journey to Life” as The G Manifesto describes. By wearing confident and masculine body language, you will immediately feel more confident and masculine.
At first, assuming such body language will take conscious effort. It will feel strange and unnatural to you. The trick is to drill yourself into it all the time everywhere you go. Do not restrict it to just when girls are around. Walk through life being confident, and looking confident.
The body language tips I’ve described are merely shortcuts or boosters to ones confidence. It cannot be built by faking it alone, it needs a foundation. The benefits of faking it till you make it however will lead you to increased success. Success which will further increase your confidence which then further increases your success and this becomes a powerful cycle of improvement. Likewise however, a break in the cycle caused by a “failure” can cause a downward spiral of confidence. I believe this is where the hot and cold streaks that guys experience in learning game come from. A bad few days, statistical probability or some minor hurdles along the way chip at your confidence causing your “performance” so to speak to drop.
By constantly communicating confident presence even when by all rights you should not feel confident, the damage of these booms and busts will be moderated. So maintain a straight back, stand tall and walk proudly. Keep your head up and for Christ’s sakes don’t cross your legs (that’s for women). I never do that anymore. And if by chance I slip and do, it instantly feels so much more uncomfortable than it used to and it shocks me out of it. My crotch needs room to breathe.
Continuously force yourself to correct your body language. When you begin to consistently walk proudly and confidently, you will appreciate the immense difference this makes to your own state. The confidence you gain will improve your game. That is unquestionable.